Monday, March 18, 2013

My Reality

It's Monday and it has definitely felt like Monday all day.  The last few weeks have been insanely busy and I have hardly had the time to think.  This morning I actually got to sit down and have my coffee instead of carrying a cup around with me and hoping I could drink it before it got cold.

The thing about being busy is that I kind of let things build up.  I tend to take care of everyone but me and I really need to learn to not do that.  I am working on it though and releasing some of that is why I am writing today.

There are many things that really get my dander up, as my mama would say.  Luckily, as I have grown older I have learned how not to blow up about things and just let them ride.  However, just because I don't blow up right then does not mean that I actually handle things any better.  There are many things that just annoy me.

First and foremost, in this current economy everyone is having financial issues. That is the reality of things.  We all know it and we all respect when someone says they can't do something because of the money involved.  However, I don't understand nor do I respect when people say that or even that they can't pay their bills and then they manage to buy beer/alcohol and cigarettes or new clothes/shoes.  Wants are not needs.  If you are having problems meeting your needs then maybe you should alter your wants.

Next, social media is not a healthy way to hash things out with your husband/wife/partner.  When emotions run high, things can get nasty and it never helps to bring your 500 closest friends into the argument.  This is a good rule of thumb with all arguments, but most definitely those between you and your loved one.  No one wants to watch your fight.

Your sex life should not be discussed in public.  It is tacky!  The bedroom is kind of like Vegas; what happens there should stay there.  Unless you are discussing the lack of  sex with me as pertinent to your marital discourse because I am being a good friend and listening; however, the intimate details are not necessary for this conversation.

Lastly, I need to make myself less available.  Apparently I am always there when I am needed.  It has become expected.  However, those same people aren't there when I need them.  I can't be at their beck and call and then when things are reversed, be ignored or treated as a lesser being.  The bulk of my time should be given to those who value me as a person.  The ones who appreciate all I have to offer.  Maybe it is time I start looking at who fits into that category...

1 comment:

  1. Amen to all of that! There's a time to be ready and available, but there is also a time to recognize when we are being flat out used. You do so much for so many, and those of us that know you, appreciate all you do!!